Life coaching for mums

You love your kids. But this isn't what you imagined.

Emily ten Kate smiling outdoors with lush green foliage

I help mums get to know themselves again, feel calmer and more present at home, and actually enjoy these years while their children are still small.

Former Montessori nursery owner

Mum of twoICF member

Maybe it looks a bit like this

Someone asks how you are, and you tell them how the children are sleeping.

Your day comes in 30-second pieces, and none of them are yours.

You snap over something small, then spend the evening feeling guilty about it.

You can't remember the last time you did something just because you enjoy it.

The work you used to love doesn't fit any more, but being at home doesn't feel like enough either.

You'd love an hour to yourself, and feel guilty for even wanting it.

If you're nodding along, you're not alone. And there's nothing wrong with you.

Becoming a parent changes everything. Nobody gives you time to catch up.

Having a child is a bit like your whole life being put in a tumble dryer. You come out with everything shifted and out of place, and you're expected to just get on with it. So most of us do. We push through and assume this is simply what parenthood feels like.

It doesn't have to be. Support shouldn't be something you only reach for once things fall apart. It should be as normal as a check-up after any big life change, a post-children MOT, if you like.

Emily ten Kate sitting with colourful children's toys and mountain view

And my aim is never to turn you into a "better parent". You're already giving so much. I want you to feel better as a parent, because you matter too.

Always.

What can start to feel different

Identity

Know who you are now

You get to know the person you've become since having children, and start to feel proud of her. You make room for the things you enjoy, instead of feeling like a stranger to yourself.

Purpose

Stop coasting and start steering

You get clear on what you want, at work and at home, and feel confident taking the next step instead of drifting from one week to the next.

Balance

Create space and calm in your life

You make real space for yourself, so there's more patience left for home. Fewer moments of losing it, and more moments where you're properly there with your children.

Starting is simple

1

Book a free call.

Pick a time that works for you, whether that's nap time or your lunch break.

2

We talk.

You tell me what's going on. I listen, then recommend what I think would help most.

3

You decide.

If it feels right, we agree a start date. If not, that's completely fine.

Book my free call

Free · About an hour · on Zoom

Three ways to work with me

You don't need to choose before we talk. On a free call I'll listen to what's going on and recommend what I think will help most.

Emily ten Kate with her two daughters on a sunny hill in the countryside

12-week group course

Thrive in Parenthood

A small group of up to five mums, with three private 1:1 sessions alongside. Together we look at what you want from life, what triggers you, and who you are beyond being a parent.

8-week mental fitness course

Positive Intelligence

Short daily practice in an app and a weekly live session with me, to quieten your inner critic and help you respond more calmly.

Individual support

1:1 Coaching

Coaching built entirely around you and your pace, with deeper work wherever something keeps holding you back.

I've been where you are

For 15 years I was a Montessori teacher, running two nursery schools in London with my mum and supporting parents almost every day. I thought I knew what to expect from parenthood. Then I had my two girls and found myself completely thrown.

That's why my work focuses on you, the parent. I know how much it can shake you, and I know how much better it can feel.

Emily ten Kate, founder of itsme

Training & experience

Certified Life Coach (Coaching Academy)
ICF Member
Positive Intelligence Coach
Accredited Journey Practitioner
Montessori Practitioner of the Year 2015

From mums who felt the same way

My relationship with my daughters has never been better… I feel as if I have forgiven myself too.

— Kate, mum of two

The course was truly transformational — it gave me clarity, confidence, and a new sense of joy in both life and parenting.

— Catherine, mum of two

I was just beginning to think 'this is me, this is it, so get used to it'… You gave me the life I wanted and couldn't see I had all along!

— Natalie, mum of two, teacher

These years go quickly. You don't have to wait for them to pass before you start enjoying them.